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Louis C.K.'s Apology: What it Should Have Said.
« on: November 13, 2017, 06:06:17 AM »
Louis C.K.'s Apology: What it Should Have Said.

This is too good not to share. It was originally published at

                        We edited Louis C.K.?s ?apology? to make it a real apology.

Louis C.K. has issued a public statement to five women who accused him of sexual misconduct, including masturbating in front of them on multiple occasions.

Louis C.K. admits that all of the allegations against him, which were made public in a Nov. 9 New York Times report (paywall), are true. He also apologizes for the damage he has done to these women.

However, Louis C.K.?s ?apology? devolves into an attempt to paint  himself as suffering and worthy of sympathy. He says that until the  Times report, he did not realize the full extent of the harm he caused  women by taking out his penis and masturbating in front of them. He also  tries to reduce his culpability by noting that, at the time of his  actions, he thought simply asking if it was OK to masturbate in front of  women was enough to guarantee consent.

What?s more, Louis  C.K. does not mention his attempts to cover up his actions, nor his  stubborn refusal to acknowledge the accusations that have been made  several times before.

He does, however, make sure to note how ?admired? he was, and is,  both by the women he harassed, and the comedy industry at large. In  fact, he repeats it four times in his statement.

We took it upon ourselves to edit Louis C.K.?s ?apology? in order to  make it a real apology. This is how we believe it should read:
I want to address the stories told to the New York Times  by five women named Abby, Rebecca, Dana, Julia who felt able to name  themselves and one who did not.
These stories are true. At  the time, I said to myself that what I did was okay because I never  showed a woman my dick without asking first, which is also true. But  what I learned later in life, too late, is that when you have power over  another person, asking them to look at your dick isn?t a question. It?s  a predicament for them. The power I had over these women is that they admired me and I was in a position to affect their success. And I wielded that power irresponsibly abusively.
I have been remorseful am sorry.
And I?ve tried to  learn from them. And run from them. Now I?m aware of the extent of the  impact of my actions. I learned yesterday the extent to which I left  these women who admired me feeling badly about themselves and cautious  around other men who would never have put them in that position.
I also took advantage of the fact that I was widely admired powerful in my and their community, which disabled them from sharing their story and brought hardship to them when they tried because people who look up to me didn?t want to hear it. I didn?t think that I was doing any of that because m. My position allowed me not to think worry about it.
There is nothing about this that I forgive myself for. And I have to  reconcile it with who I am. Which is nothing compared to the task I left  them with.
I wish I had  reacted to their admiration of me by being a good example to them as a  man and given them some guidance as a comedian, including because I  admired their work.
The hardest  regret to live with is what you?ve done to hurt someone else. And I can  hardly wrap my head around the scope of hurt I brought on them. I?d be remiss to exclude the hurt that I?ve brought on people who I work with and have worked with who?s whose professional  and personal lives have been impacted by all of this, including  projects currently in production: the cast and crew of Better Things,  Baskets, The Cops, One Mississippi, and I Love You Daddy. I deeply regret that this has brought negative attention to my manager Dave Becky who only tried to mediate a situation that I caused.  I?ve brought anguish and hardship to the people at FX who have given me  so much, The Orchard who took a chance on my movie and, every other  entity that has bet on me through the years.
I?ve brought pain to my family, my friends, my children and their mother.
I have spent my long and lucky career talking and saying anything I want. I will now step back and take a long time to listen.

Thank you for reading.

Source: Louis C.K.'s Apology: What it Should Have Said.